A Guide to Firebonding for Keepers and Cubs
Before a child can self-regulate, they must co-regulate through your eyes, your breath, and your presence.
This is Firebonding- a sacred dance between nervous systems. A way of saying, “Even here, in this storm, I won’t leave you.”
This guide is for Keepers who are tired of losing their temper, holding their breath, or feeling like they’re failing. It’s for parents, caregivers, and helpers who want to offer steadiness without self-erasure.
Inside, you’ll find:
- A compassionate breakdown of nervous system states (Red to Green to White)
- Reflections to help you check in with your own dragon before trying to calm anyone else’s
- Tools for building awareness, language, and resilience- together
- Grounding scripts, co-regulation phrases, and emotional permission slips
- Gentle practices for classroom, therapeutic, and family environments
Firebonding is not a technique. It’s a remembering. That presence- honest, messy, grounded- is the medicine.
You'll receive a beautifully written and illustrated guide that teaches the art of co-regulation through Firebonding, helping you and your child (or student, or client) build safety through presence, rhythm, honesty, and compassion- whether at home, in the classroom, or in a therapeutic setting.