The Adolescent Flame
Adolescence isn’t the end of the childhood dragon- but it is the second fire.
As children grow into teens, their nervous systems undergo a profound transformation. Meltdowns become shutdowns. Tears turn to sarcasm. Fire becomes silence. And yet, beneath all the armor, the dragon is still there longing for safety, connection, and rhythm.
The Adolescent Flame is a compassionate guide for Keepers walking alongside teens and older children. Whether you’re a parent, teacher, therapist, or mentor, this resource will help you understand the nervous system shifts of adolescence and respond with presence instead of pressure.
This is not about fixing behaviour.
It’s about learning to see the fire beneath it and how to hold space for becoming.
Inside, you’ll discover how to:
- Decode emotional states using the Dragon Riding Gauge
- Communicate in a way teens can actually receive
- Co-regulate without controlling
- Use rhythm, ritual, and play as connection tools
- Support your own nervous system while holding space for theirs
- Meet adolescent dragons in Green, Yellow, Orange, Red, Blue, Grey, and White states
- Offer real-world “playdates” for teens without awkwardness or forced bonding
Whether you’re navigating slammed doors, long silences, or flickers of connection, this guide gives you tools to ride the storm with steadiness, softness, and sovereignty.
You’ll receive a beautifully written and richly practical guide to adolescent co-regulation. This resource includes detailed explanations of each nervous system state, phrases and scripts for each colour, and creative ways to engage teens through shared rhythm, autonomy, and play. Designed for real-world parenting, classroom care, and therapeutic settings this is a toolkit for riding the second fire with your dragon intact.